atm im am really in doubt if im submissive or dominante... atm im really in the mood to "beat" someone and be "mean" to someone... (in a way they "like/want") its really wiaerd... never felt this way before...
is it normal for sub's to turn into dom's?
it just seams wierd to me...
im really lost atm...
hope someone can give some advice... im really torn... have allways been submissive...
but atm i feel really dominante...
doubt...
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Re: doubt...
yes it happens from time to time, its not weird , talk to your friends that are in to BDSM you might find out that some of the doms started out as subs. some of them might take turns being a dom one week and a sub the next week. I hope that this helps in some way1azzu1 wrote:
is it normal for sub's to turn into dom's?
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Re: doubt...
1azzu1
It seems you maybe a "Switch"
Les
It seems you maybe a "Switch"
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Re: doubt...
I am not sure if anyone is 'subby' all the time
Just look at all the posts where people top from the bottom
or Ask for specific lists of what they want in what looks like a demanding way.
I have found that I am usually Subbie
However, If my Job stress is getting to high
or I am REALLY frustrated I 'switch' and want to be, or am more dominant.
As with many things in life self-care is CRITICAL!!!!!!!!!!!
Stress reduction, meditation, prayer, or some physical activity is good for getting rid of pent up energy.
Denial in of itself creates pent up energy! Add a little stress
and you might start fantasizing about whipping your dominant partner (who may or may not want that)
1. Get a daily routine of self-care relaxation
This should include a Physical component AND something relaxing but fun
I'm a play a video game guy, but your relaxation might be Hunting or Dirt bikes.
2. Health balanced diet, nutrition is important!
Hydration, vitamins, the works!
3. Have someone friend, partner who you can talk to Honestly
I can not tell you how freeing it is that I can talk to my wife about my kinks.
Now you may still feel dominant some days and submissive others
but being aware of how different stresses affect you can make what ever role you take more Fun!
And less confusing.
Just look at all the posts where people top from the bottom
or Ask for specific lists of what they want in what looks like a demanding way.
I have found that I am usually Subbie
However, If my Job stress is getting to high
or I am REALLY frustrated I 'switch' and want to be, or am more dominant.
As with many things in life self-care is CRITICAL!!!!!!!!!!!
Stress reduction, meditation, prayer, or some physical activity is good for getting rid of pent up energy.
Denial in of itself creates pent up energy! Add a little stress
and you might start fantasizing about whipping your dominant partner (who may or may not want that)
1. Get a daily routine of self-care relaxation
This should include a Physical component AND something relaxing but fun
I'm a play a video game guy, but your relaxation might be Hunting or Dirt bikes.
2. Health balanced diet, nutrition is important!
Hydration, vitamins, the works!
3. Have someone friend, partner who you can talk to Honestly
I can not tell you how freeing it is that I can talk to my wife about my kinks.
Now you may still feel dominant some days and submissive others
but being aware of how different stresses affect you can make what ever role you take more Fun!
And less confusing.
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Re: doubt...
Yeah Ive felt like that too in the last couple of years, I used to be totally sub, now I regard myself as switch.
I was wondering if perhaps testosterone levels have anything to do with it?
I was wondering if perhaps testosterone levels have anything to do with it?
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Re: doubt...
I think so too.cumhardy wrote:Yeah Ive felt like that too in the last couple of years, I used to be totally sub, now I regard myself as switch.
I was wondering if perhaps testosterone levels have anything to do with it?
But as for myself I have found stress is a definite factor as well.
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Re: doubt...
I'd tend to agree with that. Stress does seem to factor into the equation for me. The more stressed I get I just feel as though I can't be submissive anymore. But that's just how it is for me.SexualChoc wrote: I think so too.
But as for myself I have found stress is a definite factor as well.
I guess it's rare that a person is 100% anything really. It's all just relelvant.
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