Specific kind of dominance?
Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2014 4:49 pm
Since I'm sure I'm not in a unique place in the spectrum here, I'm wondering if anybody can tell me how my particular brand of submissiveness might most clearly be referred to? FYI, my wife has dominating me taken care of, so I am not looking to fill the role. I am however always interested in more ideas, and directions to more material that explores these ideas. I am also fascinated to read from others about where they are on the dominant/submissive spectrum, and why they think and feel that is.
I love female dominance. But a particular flavor of it. I love to be taken charge of, told what to do, and even getting called certain names. But humiliation? CBT? Not for me. (No judgement here. Your place on the spectrum is just as valid as mine, or if you are a domme/dom, then perhaps more valid. :) ).
To clarify some specifics:
First off, no bodily fluid or bathroom stuff. Not my realm.
I love letting her control when, how, and if I cum.
I love getting called names which imply and enforce dominance on her part, but not worthlessness, un-attractiveness, or inadequacy on my part. While acknowledging that there is a great deal of personal subjectivity here, the kinds of names that work for me are: My little Bitch, My Little Boy, My Toy, Slave, Servant, Tongue-servant, Cock-servant, Manservant, and so on. But stuff like Pathetic, Loser, worthless, ugly, inferior, these don't work with me. (Again, no judgement. My personal taste.)
Forced Bi? No, more like coaxed bi, or seduced bi. A perfect example is this video by Lelu love:
http://www.youporn.com/watch/9777157/do ... h-me-demo/
This explores the taboo, hidden-desire nature of the cocksucking fantasy that I believe many otherwise straight identifying men occasionally entertain, and it does so in a way that makes it incredibly sexy, using your desire, physical teasing, and her sensuality to arouse you to the point where you just want to say yes.
Also quite into being spanked and punished with tasks, but not into pain in any significant way. A red bottom? Oh-mommy-yes. Twisting my balls, or otherwise inflicting excruciating pain? Not my thing. (No judgement disclaimer here again).
So that gives the gist.
I love female dominance. But a particular flavor of it. I love to be taken charge of, told what to do, and even getting called certain names. But humiliation? CBT? Not for me. (No judgement here. Your place on the spectrum is just as valid as mine, or if you are a domme/dom, then perhaps more valid. :) ).
To clarify some specifics:
First off, no bodily fluid or bathroom stuff. Not my realm.
I love letting her control when, how, and if I cum.
I love getting called names which imply and enforce dominance on her part, but not worthlessness, un-attractiveness, or inadequacy on my part. While acknowledging that there is a great deal of personal subjectivity here, the kinds of names that work for me are: My little Bitch, My Little Boy, My Toy, Slave, Servant, Tongue-servant, Cock-servant, Manservant, and so on. But stuff like Pathetic, Loser, worthless, ugly, inferior, these don't work with me. (Again, no judgement. My personal taste.)
Forced Bi? No, more like coaxed bi, or seduced bi. A perfect example is this video by Lelu love:
http://www.youporn.com/watch/9777157/do ... h-me-demo/
This explores the taboo, hidden-desire nature of the cocksucking fantasy that I believe many otherwise straight identifying men occasionally entertain, and it does so in a way that makes it incredibly sexy, using your desire, physical teasing, and her sensuality to arouse you to the point where you just want to say yes.
Also quite into being spanked and punished with tasks, but not into pain in any significant way. A red bottom? Oh-mommy-yes. Twisting my balls, or otherwise inflicting excruciating pain? Not my thing. (No judgement disclaimer here again).
So that gives the gist.