Re: Incels? Porn? What do you think?
Posted: Tue Apr 09, 2024 2:52 pm
Every time I read something like this I ask myself, is this actually true? I've become extremely skeptical when it comes to ideologies conserning men and women. Especially when they involve some kind of reasoning based on "evolution" which itself is somewhat misunderstood by the general public. I think it's important to understand that while evolution is great descriptive scientific theory, ideologies that explain world or prescribe what is good or bad based on their interpretation of evolution are not science and imo often completely wrong.
The other thing that I often see is this focus on women, men, statistics, averages... I would just like to remind you all that you won't marry the mathematical concept of average. You marry an individual person, and the variability among individuals and what they like or don't is so great that focusing on and analyzing groups of people doesn't necesarily help as much with finding individual partner as some might think.
Also, no matter who you are, there are most likely people who find you attractive. You just don't know because you haven't had an opportunity to learn that. So it might not be a bad idea and try to create these opportunities.
Anyways, don't get it twisted. I don't think there is anything wrong with thinking about the big picture and society.
I just think that some people would benefit more if instead of interpretting graphs, they just texted that one girl or guy that they find cute, and see if the feeling is mutual.
The other thing that I often see is this focus on women, men, statistics, averages... I would just like to remind you all that you won't marry the mathematical concept of average. You marry an individual person, and the variability among individuals and what they like or don't is so great that focusing on and analyzing groups of people doesn't necesarily help as much with finding individual partner as some might think.
Also, no matter who you are, there are most likely people who find you attractive. You just don't know because you haven't had an opportunity to learn that. So it might not be a bad idea and try to create these opportunities.
Anyways, don't get it twisted. I don't think there is anything wrong with thinking about the big picture and society.
I just think that some people would benefit more if instead of interpretting graphs, they just texted that one girl or guy that they find cute, and see if the feeling is mutual.